What Is Anger Management 01/27/2017 Anger Management is a broad term that encompasses a number of interventions to help people cope with problem anger. We have deliberately used the term “problem anger” because we understand that not all anger is problematic. This is actually the first thing we teach in our training. Anger is a perfectly natural human emotion that everyone feels at some time or other. For people with problem anger this emotion is expressed in inappropriate ways. Perhaps violent or aggressive, or maybe sulky and
Anger Management is a broad term that encompasses a number of interventions to help people cope with problem anger. We have deliberately used the term “problem anger” because we understand that not all anger is problematic. This is actually the first thing we teach in our training. Anger is a perfectly natural human emotion that everyone feels at some time or other. For people with problem anger this emotion is expressed in inappropriate ways. Perhaps violent or aggressive, or maybe sulky and
The Christmas Survival Guide 12/17/2018 Christmas can be a wonderful time with the family but for many, it can also be a time fraught with stress conflict and anxiety. It is very rare that families spend so much concentrated time in each others company. Normally this time is broken up by work, school hobbies and other activities. Yet come Christmas you may be spending days in each other's company without respite. This can be a challenge for the best of families. Christmas can feel full of obligations. If you expect to find the
Christmas can be a wonderful time with the family but for many, it can also be a time fraught with stress conflict and anxiety. It is very rare that families spend so much concentrated time in each others company. Normally this time is broken up by work, school hobbies and other activities. Yet come Christmas you may be spending days in each other's company without respite. This can be a challenge for the best of families. Christmas can feel full of obligations. If you expect to find the
The Rescuer in Depth 10/19/2018 In my last blog, I introduced the concept of the Triangle, the 3 positions and the switch. This week I am going to look in more detail at the Rescuer position and most importantly - how to stop Rescuing and move to a more Adult to Adult method of relating. In many ways, I am most comfortable talking about the Rescuer position since this is the role I have historically taken up. The starting point for the Rescuer is a sense of not feeling ok about themselves. Rescuers find a sense of
In my last blog, I introduced the concept of the Triangle, the 3 positions and the switch. This week I am going to look in more detail at the Rescuer position and most importantly - how to stop Rescuing and move to a more Adult to Adult method of relating. In many ways, I am most comfortable talking about the Rescuer position since this is the role I have historically taken up. The starting point for the Rescuer is a sense of not feeling ok about themselves. Rescuers find a sense of
What role do you play in your drama? 10/05/2018 Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same old patterns? Ending up with the same old feelings of anger, hurt and frustration? If you have then this is definitely the model for you. The Drama Triangle is my favorite model from Transactional Analysis to share with clients. It is the one that produces the most AHA moments. The time when you can see people suddenly realize just how their own actions might be causing some of the problems they currently blame on others. So what is the
Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same old patterns? Ending up with the same old feelings of anger, hurt and frustration? If you have then this is definitely the model for you. The Drama Triangle is my favorite model from Transactional Analysis to share with clients. It is the one that produces the most AHA moments. The time when you can see people suddenly realize just how their own actions might be causing some of the problems they currently blame on others. So what is the
Understanding Self 09/20/2018 The central model of Personality in Transactional Analysis is the ego stare model. It is designed to help you understand yourself and your relationship with others using some very simple concepts It is a great tool for developing self-awareness personal growth
The central model of Personality in Transactional Analysis is the ego stare model. It is designed to help you understand yourself and your relationship with others using some very simple concepts It is a great tool for developing self-awareness personal growth
Managing Negative Intrusive Thoughts 08/07/2018 In my last blog, I looked at how the way we think has a direct impact on our mood. In this week's blog, I am going to introduce you to a great technique for helping you manage negative or intrusive thoughts. This process is not just relevant for anger. Negative thoughts can undermine our sense of well being and also lead to depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. For example, let’s take the thought “My boss doesn’t like me”. This is likely to lead to a strong emotional reaction. We may feel
In my last blog, I looked at how the way we think has a direct impact on our mood. In this week's blog, I am going to introduce you to a great technique for helping you manage negative or intrusive thoughts. This process is not just relevant for anger. Negative thoughts can undermine our sense of well being and also lead to depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. For example, let’s take the thought “My boss doesn’t like me”. This is likely to lead to a strong emotional reaction. We may feel
