The Rescuer in Depth 10/19/2018 In my last blog, I introduced the concept of the Triangle, the 3 positions and the switch. This week I am going to look in more detail at the Rescuer position and most importantly - how to stop Rescuing and move to a more Adult to Adult method of relating. In many ways, I am most comfortable talking about the Rescuer position since this is the role I have historically taken up. The starting point for the Rescuer is a sense of not feeling ok about themselves. Rescuers find a sense of
In my last blog, I introduced the concept of the Triangle, the 3 positions and the switch. This week I am going to look in more detail at the Rescuer position and most importantly - how to stop Rescuing and move to a more Adult to Adult method of relating. In many ways, I am most comfortable talking about the Rescuer position since this is the role I have historically taken up. The starting point for the Rescuer is a sense of not feeling ok about themselves. Rescuers find a sense of
What role do you play in your drama? 10/05/2018 Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same old patterns? Ending up with the same old feelings of anger, hurt and frustration? If you have then this is definitely the model for you. The Drama Triangle is my favorite model from Transactional Analysis to share with clients. It is the one that produces the most AHA moments. The time when you can see people suddenly realize just how their own actions might be causing some of the problems they currently blame on others. So what is the
Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same old patterns? Ending up with the same old feelings of anger, hurt and frustration? If you have then this is definitely the model for you. The Drama Triangle is my favorite model from Transactional Analysis to share with clients. It is the one that produces the most AHA moments. The time when you can see people suddenly realize just how their own actions might be causing some of the problems they currently blame on others. So what is the
Understanding Self 09/20/2018 The central model of Personality in Transactional Analysis is the ego stare model. It is designed to help you understand yourself and your relationship with others using some very simple concepts It is a great tool for developing self-awareness personal growth
The central model of Personality in Transactional Analysis is the ego stare model. It is designed to help you understand yourself and your relationship with others using some very simple concepts It is a great tool for developing self-awareness personal growth
How Our Thoughts Affect Our Anger 07/21/2018 “We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.” These are the opening lines of a famous Buddhist text and this teaching seems really relevant to the model of Anger we shall explore today Any emotion can be considered to be made up of 3 component parts; Our thought, our bodily sensations, and our behaviors. Think about this in relation to your anger: your angry thought might be “he doesn't care about me” or “she is trying to put me down”.
“We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.” These are the opening lines of a famous Buddhist text and this teaching seems really relevant to the model of Anger we shall explore today Any emotion can be considered to be made up of 3 component parts; Our thought, our bodily sensations, and our behaviors. Think about this in relation to your anger: your angry thought might be “he doesn't care about me” or “she is trying to put me down”.
The Couples Stroke Bank in the Therapy Room 04/02/2018 In this week's blog, my colleague Anthony Woods explores how he uses the concept of the Stroke Bank to help couples in therapy with him. The original version of this blog can be found at https://www.anthonywoodscounselling.co.uk/leeds-bingley/blog/the-couple-stroking-bank/ "Since calling and creating my custom-made Couple Stroking Bank – picture above – it has become a regular part of my practice for some years now with my couples. It’s designed for you when considering your relationship,
In this week's blog, my colleague Anthony Woods explores how he uses the concept of the Stroke Bank to help couples in therapy with him. The original version of this blog can be found at https://www.anthonywoodscounselling.co.uk/leeds-bingley/blog/the-couple-stroking-bank/ "Since calling and creating my custom-made Couple Stroking Bank – picture above – it has become a regular part of my practice for some years now with my couples. It’s designed for you when considering your relationship,
You Make this Important Relationship Choice Every Day Without Knowing It 03/12/2018 To move towards or to move away? This is the simple choice we are being asked by our partner in almost every transaction we make. What message does your response currently say? Are you being supportive, dismissive or ambivalent? One of our basic human requirements is to be recognized, especially by those we love. When we are not recognized this brings feelings of pain, isolation and perhaps rejection or abandonment. Our need for recognition and our unconscious asking for it is encoded in even
To move towards or to move away? This is the simple choice we are being asked by our partner in almost every transaction we make. What message does your response currently say? Are you being supportive, dismissive or ambivalent? One of our basic human requirements is to be recognized, especially by those we love. When we are not recognized this brings feelings of pain, isolation and perhaps rejection or abandonment. Our need for recognition and our unconscious asking for it is encoded in even
