I know from personal experience the value of therapy and the positive changes it can bring. I recognise that making the decision to see a counsellor is a big step and it’s my aim to help you feel supported in taking that step forward.
I was stuck in the rush hour traffic last week and I was fuming. This might be a normal day for most of you but since working for myself I have planned my day around missing the traffic. On this particular day, a client had cancelled at short notice and I decided to brave the rush – BIG mistake! 30 minutes later I hadn’t moved. To be honest, I was pretty pissed off, and mainly at myself for being stupid enough to brave the traffic when I could be sitting in Starbucks sipping a Macchiato and waiting for the traffic to subside.
Christmas can be a wonderful time with the family but for many, it can also be a time fraught with stress conflict and anxiety.
In my last blog, I introduced the concept of the Triangle, the 3 positions and the switch. This week I am going to look in more detail at the Rescuer position and most importantly – how to stop Rescuing and move to a more Adult to Adult method of relating.
Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same old patterns? Ending up with the same old feelings of anger, hurt and frustration? If you have then this is definitely the model for you.
The Dalai Lama tells us “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.”
I bought my grandson some Harry Potter frog chocolate last Christmas from the online retailer, Amazon (and yes other online retailers do exist).
We are surrounded by images of perfect, happy couples. Whether it is In movies, romantic fiction, glossy magazines or just on Social Media we are fed a diet of true love and happy ever after. If we are to believe the image we see around us then being one half of a couple is the solution to all our problems and is our key to lasting happiness.
Most people come to therapy because the are in pain. They may be angry, or they may be depressed or anxious. Whatever the cause, they feel in pain and want the pain to go away.
In this week’s blog, my colleague Anthony Woods explores how he uses the concept of the Stroke Bank to help couples in therapy with him.